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26 stay-at-home and career moms face off on their choices, their lives, and their families.
ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP WARNING SIGNS
(from Dr. Phil Show)
- History of past battering
- Threats of violence
- Breaking items in anger
- Use of force during arguments
- Unreasonable jealousy
- Controlling behavior
- Over-involvement in the relationship
- Verbal abuse/​blaming others for problems
- Cruelty to children/​animals
- Abrupt mood changes

WHAT TO DO IF YOU ARE BEING ABUSED
- Call the police
- Avoid becoming isolated
- Confide in someone
- Fight the shame; no one deserves to make you afraid
- Keep a record (including pictures) in a safe place
- Develop an emergency safety plan -- keep spare keys, money and clothes in a safe place, and know where you can go in the middle of the night
- Consider ending the relationship as soon you can

The Crazy Love Project

Shared Stories of Surviving Domestic Abuse

If I Had Known Then

January 11, 2010

I was married to an abusive man for 25 years. I have 3 children and that made leaving difficult. Not that I didnít try several times.

Unlike Conor, my husband would not leave our home and ultimately I did. In the process I lost access to my son for more than 10 years. I lost my house and personal belongings. My divorce in a no fault state took two years and more than $15,000. I kept some contact with one adult daughter, another young adult daughter was angry at me for many years. This was difficult and sad.

But nothing compared to the pain of losing access to my young son. I still wonder if I had known then what was going to happen, would I have left or waited until he was older? For years I played different scenarios out in my head of what I did wrong, how I could have done it differently. So maybe it was better that I did not know.

Itís been 14 years since I left that relationship, years of therapy, I have a nice home, a supportive caring partner and beginning relationships with my son who is now 26.

Each woman's story is different. I think there are many women who need to hear about parental alienation and know there is hope in the future.

Comments

  1. March 7, 2014 4:54 PM EST
    Your story is very similar to mine, married for 20 yrs, 3 kids. I lot access to my 3 teen age kids for a period of years (it's been over 7 yrs). I still am estranged from my youngest who is protecting her Dad and angry with me. I had the same painful debate over whether to leave, when to leave always keeping my kids feelings first.
    - Anonymous

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