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26 stay-at-home and career moms face off on their choices, their lives, and their families.
(from Dr. Phil Show)
- History of past battering
- Threats of violence
- Breaking items in anger
- Use of force during arguments
- Unreasonable jealousy
- Controlling behavior
- Over-involvement in the relationship
- Verbal abuse/​blaming others for problems
- Cruelty to children/​animals
- Abrupt mood changes

- Call the police
- Avoid becoming isolated
- Confide in someone
- Fight the shame; no one deserves to make you afraid
- Keep a record (including pictures) in a safe place
- Develop an emergency safety plan -- keep spare keys, money and clothes in a safe place, and know where you can go in the middle of the night
- Consider ending the relationship as soon you can

The Crazy Love Project

Shared Stories of Surviving Domestic Abuse

True Love, Crazy Love

August 8, 2010

I have read Crazy Love five, maybe six times now - I suppose it is therapeutic to read a story that feels like my own. It is uncanny how much Conor reminds me of my soon to be ex-husband, my college sweetheart and the man currently serving time for felony domestic violence against me.


Please Do Not Go Back to That Man

July 30, 2010

When I was 19, I too was in an abusive relationship with the man I thought I would be with forever. It amazes me how stupid I was at 19, even though I thought I knew everything! He didn't hit me until (more…)

Strength of Abused Women

July 29, 2010

I spent five years in an abusive relationship, all the while not believing I was a "battered" woman. I didn't get hit everyday, so I wrongly assumed that label didn't apply to me. No one knew in my life either - I went to work everyday and did a good job. I was 35 years old.

This man was the love of my life, my best friend, he GOT me. I gave myself up, mind, body and soul to him. (more…)

Emotional Battering

July 23, 2010

I finished "Crazy Love" in one sitting, and wanted to thank you for having the courage to share your experience. I am currently getting divorced from a man who emotionally abused me. The day we returned from our honeymoon he left an email visible on our computer that indicated he had been cheating on me for months; (more…)

Sweet Sixteen

July 14, 2010

I am 16 years old. I have just finished reading your book "Crazy Love". I am emailing to tell you how much it touched me. I have had a lot of experiences with a few different types of abuse. When I was 13, I was raped by a man I didn't even know. And for almost two years, I was in a mentally abusive relationship. (more…)

Bruises On My Wedding Day

January 25, 2010

I read your book in two days. As I turned each page, I knew what was next. I feel like I wrote your book.

The similarities were uncanny. The poor cat he made me give away, the refusal to acknowledge what he had done,the gun to my head,the red marks around my (more…)

A Batterer's Story

January 11, 2010

I am 25 years old.

I am writing this to you with much difficulty because I really don't admit when I have been wrong.

But I just have to tell you my story. (more…)

If I Had Known Then

January 11, 2010

I was married to an abusive man for 25 years. I have 3 children and that made leaving difficult. Not that I didnít try several times.

Unlike Conor, my husband would not leave our home and ultimately I did. In the process I lost access to my son for more than 10 years. I lost my (more…)

Emotional Abuse Can Beat You Too

October 27, 2009

Thank you for writing your book 'Crazy Love.' It was such a powerful read for me. I left an emotionally abusive husband last February. I did not endure the physical abuse that you did - he punched me one time and grabbed me and made physical threats when I decided to leave. But the covert emotional abuse is what beat me up over and over. (more…)

My Daughter, Left For Dead

October 18, 2009

In the early morning hours of October 14, 2006, my daughterís car hit a tree head on at a high rate of speed after she had been pursued by her ex-husband, who in his speeding van rammed her car multiple times until it hit the tree and rolled over. He took off, leaving her for dead, not, I think, out of cowardice, but out of a desire for her to die. (more…)

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